I am not exactly in the right mood of blogging, but for now I don't see any better option to understand what I am upto and what things are upon me. In my last post, I made a statement which goes like this after a while relationships can only be made nice and b'ful by staying apart. Now I realise that it so was so damn true. People say long distance relationship doesn't work.. In my case, its the distance which is keeping the relationship go.
Till yesterday I always wondered why people have this "Space" issue between each other. I thought that if they are in love they are meant to stay together and with each other... Then how can the space thing crop up at point of time.
Being in love and staying together are two very different things. You can stay with a person and not be in love and you can love a person but staying together may not click !
After my last trip at his place, I realised quite a few things. One of them is after 3 days of being with each other day in n day out, things get messed up. The other person has had so much of you that he needs his space. He starts missing out on his own time. Previously, departures use to be sad and heart wrenching. Now, they are awaited. You look upto them as you have things lined up in your mind you have to do once the other person is gone. The point is probably, they are too much habitual of their routine that they cannot get comfortable without their schedule after a couple of days. They get this irking urge to get back to the lined up things.
At this point of time if the other person isnt actually thinking on similar lines, he/she is royally screwed. Not only he/she feels like a complete piece of shit, on feels taken for granted and that he/she is just not needed after like 72hrs. Their presence
gets annoying for the other person as he/she has better things in the world instead of staying with you.
I use to think why talking is only women's forte? Now I think do we really talk too much? So much so that if you live with a person for 3 days, on the 4th day the guy needs a break from you and fights back when you ask him to TALK !
He takes you to be a nonsensical chatter box and asks you to go and find some meaningful things to do in life as, as per him your mind is completely blank & has become a devil's workshop and instead of bothering him you should do something useful. Now how is one suppose to take it? Accept that her mind is a garbage box or should fight back? Does talking a lot means you have nothing better to do in life? So if I talk less with you or accept you in a non-talking mode, will that make me a very career-focused person ? Will that prove that I am doing all useful things in the world? Or does that leave you from the monotonous duty of conversing?
Lets get down with the Second problem. Suppose x & y are in a relationship and the family doesnt know about their frequent meetings. The family doesnt know that the girl x comes and stays at the guy's place. However the family knows about the girl and are ok with her.
Now comes a weekend when x makes the entire web of lies at her place and arrange being with y for 3 days. At the back of her mind she constantly fears the repercussions that may follow in the event of getting caught by her parents. But then she is so much in love with y that she handles all the hurdles and make it to his place.
With the beaming happiness they meet and get lost in each other.
However Y's sister who stays in the same city plans to come to his place due to some reasons. X loves being with his sister and totally enjoys her company. But she really doesnt want his sis to know bout her stay at Y's place as that might be considered inappropriate. Now even Y is in a fix. He wants X to stay but at the same time he wants to take care of his sis. X plans to leave as her stay isnt solving the purpose and is also giving trouble's to y's sis. X totally dies of guilt. She hates the fact that Y is in a fix because of her. He wants to meet his sis but because of X he isnt able to. Finally Y asks hi sister not to come and decided to stay with X. X is happy but deep inside she hates herself for what happened because of her.
The next day Y's bro from US comes to meet him for a couple of hours. Technically X shouldn't have any problems with that but then the way the news was put in front of her she took a totally different view of the situation. Y gives a lot of solutions to the problem like "you too can come along.. there wont be any issue at all" or "you can plan to visit the mall where we'll be having dinner with friends and then do some tp and we can rejoin" But somehow something else was boiling up in her.
She was loathing the entire game of hide n seek. She is kind of so so so sick of the entire deal. First she hid the real reason of her going to delhi, then she hid herself from Y's sister and now she is hiding from Y's brother ! This was giving her creeps that till when this all would continue? Till when she has to play this game and run away? Till when she cant come up open in front of the world about being with the person she loves the most in her life? Why she has to live like this.. lying hiding was no more fun or acceptable to her. So they fought. Particularly since she didnt have anyone to blame the situation on to, she blamed it on Y. She burst-ed him with all the venom she had in herself. She knew inside that whatever is happening isnt Y's mistake and he has nothing in his control. She still fought and she knew she wasnt making any sense. The only solution to this problem is to get married. And somehow this solution cannot be accepted due to circumstances. But the anger in her has to be vented out. Although it wasn't correctly done as she didnt make any point at the end of the fight also she left a lot many threads which will lead to a couple of more fights. She never uses her anger in an optimum way. It gets wasted away and no purpose is met.
